“No, no, I don’t care HOW helpful it is – I’m not going!”
It it’s not unusual for one person to be excited about this weekend while their partner, is, shall we say, less than enthusiastic about the idea.
If this describes your situation, you should know that this is a) normal, and b) 99% of the time completely overcome by noon Saturday. However, I understand and respect skepticism, so I encourage you to read the notes and
Workshop Guarantee below.
“I’m not discussing my private life with a bunch of strangers!”
Many people have concerns about participating in a group where personal material is being discussed. This sensitive issue is respected throughout the weekend. All processes are practiced in private. Participation in group discussions of any kind, (other than sharing your first names Friday night), is strictly voluntary.
“I hate “touchy feely” …. are we gonna sit around singing kumbaya all weekend?
No. We will not be singing kumbaya nor roasting marshmallows. But yes, there will be emotions involved. You can’t get to greater intimacy and be afraid to have a few feelings. This entire workshop, however, is dedicated to creating a respectful, safe space for those feelings to be shared, if so desired.
“What about the kids – finding a sitter will be tough!”
Obviously this is a challenge for many couples. Those without family nearby often ask parents or adult siblings to come in for the weekend. Family members are generally happy to have a way to support their kids or siblings improve or save a marriage.
“I can’t sit that long in one place … I’ll go stir-crazy!”
The agenda for this weekend is packed – we are constantly moving from one topic to the next, with each segment broken up into different action components. No one, in 22 years, has ever complained of being bored or that the workshop moved too slowly. Usually, the complaint is there isn’t enough time to complete certain activities. Plus, there are plenty of times you are free to move about if you feel the need to do so.
“You know, we have that… wedding, golf match, birthday, etc. to go to – maybe we should wait till our schedules slow down.”
We all have busy lives and tons of things that can make giving up an entire weekend a tough thing to do. But, most would agree that those demands are not going to be any less 6 months from now. “Strike while the iron is hot” is the best advice here – but experience has shown that those who wait, often never make it. So, which is more important to you – weekend party or keeping your marriage or family healthy and intact?
“I’m not sure what to expect…. I don’t want to feel pressured to commit to something I’m not ready for. What if I can’t produce what’s expected?”
Many come to the weekend on the brink of separation or divorce – they are there to find out if they even can re-commit to their relationship, not to just jump back into it. These feelings are deeply respected – you will be under no pressure to feel something you do not spontaneously feel. Experience says that pressure of this type is not only destructive but completely unnecessary, as the natural progression of the weekend will, for the vast majority, grow those feelings organically.
If, at the end of this weekend, you feel that the information, experiences and tools you have received have not been of benefit to you, your money (minus the cost of your workbooks,) will be refunded!