As a couples therapist with decades of training and experience, I admit it – I pride myself on having above-average communication skills. So the other day, I was both surprised and a bit humbled when a young couple taught me something new about communicating! It was their fourth couples therapy session and they had just seated themselves on the love seat…
A Simple Mantra To Help You Build a Better Connection
If you’re someone who’d love to improve the connection in your relationship but aren’t sure where to start, I’d like to share with you a simple but powerful phrase that I believe can help. I learned this gem years ago from Dr. Patricia Love – it has become a personal mantra of mine that helps me stay attuned and…
Relationship Tips for Busy Parents
“Couple time? Seriously? Who can do that!” . . . Kids. We love ’em… a lot! But in today’s fast-paced, child-centered world of endless Little League games, soccer matches, dance lessons, birthday parties, homework, etc., they don’t leave parents much time to be with each other. If you’re a parent, you may find yourself searching for a marital counselor because…
Why Do Relationships So Often Go Wrong? – Part II
So in Part I, we talked about the way Imago Relationship Therapy looks at romantic relationships. We said that from an Imago perspective, we all carry into those relationships a hidden agenda, a deeply held secret hope: to get from our adult partners a more caring, respectful type of treatment than the, (rarely intended, but nonetheless, sometimes hurtful), ways we…
Why Relationships So Often Go Wrong – An Imago Perspective
In our idealized vision of marriage, everyone is living the relationship of their dreams: giving the love they feel and getting the love they want. In real life, partners all too often end up living the marriage or relationship of their nightmares, feeling pain and inflicting the same on their partners. Even though the divorce rate has…