Couples Counseling

As a couples therapist with decades of training and experience, I admit it – I pride myself on having above-average communication skills. So the other day, I was both surprised and a bit humbled when a young couple taught me something new about communicating!  It was their fourth couples therapy session and they had just seated themselves on the love seat…

So in Part I, we talked about the way Imago Relationship Therapy looks at romantic relationships.  We said that from an Imago perspective, we all carry into those relationships a hidden agenda, a deeply held secret hope: to get from our adult partners a more caring, respectful type of treatment than the, (rarely intended, but nonetheless, sometimes hurtful), ways we…

In our idealized vision of marriage, everyone is living the relationship of their dreams: giving the love they feel and getting the love they want. In real life, partners all too often end up living the marriage or relationship of their nightmares, feeling pain and inflicting the same on their partners. Even though the divorce rate has…